When it comes to sex, you like to change things up logistically. New locations, new positions. If it’s always on the bed and always doggie or missionary, it’s just a bit too routine for you. Depending on what your partner is up for, try out some new positions.

Check out #3-#9 in this article to find a few new variations of penetration and oral sex. 

Using props can also help. Try a chair, a bench or one of those Liberator sex wedges. Getting the right angle can be everything when it comes to pleasurable sex, so small changes can make a big difference. New positions can also be great if your muscles tire easily in certain positions or cause you to need a chiropractic adjustment, LOL. Take the time to do some research!

I think most of us are drawn to sex in the bedroom and on the bed because it’s easy and comfortable. If you want to start having sex in different positions and different rooms, you need to make it easier for yourself. If you use condoms or lube, keep these in the living room, kitchen or even your car too! Have some positions in mind that you can do on a chair so the kitchen or dining room is more in play.

Have fun with being in new positions and new spaces, Spatial Spice. Your sex life is about to get hottt!

Want More Juicy Tips?

There are some ingredients that tend to make sex fulfilling for most of us that don’t include toys or tangibles! If you crave closeness with your partner remember the simple things…

Presence – We all love feeling that someone is truly WITH us. Not distracted. Not thinking about someone else. Not just trying to hurry up and get to the orgasm at the end. And not trying to hurry up and get to our orgasm even. Just present with a sense of curiosity and no agenda. You could also think of this as mindfulness when it comes to sex.

And the thing is, we can’t control anyone but ourselves, so practice bringing this presence to your next sex session with a partner. One relatively easy way we can do this is by tuning into our breath and our 5 senses. When your mind wanders to what’s for dinner or your infinite “to do” list, bring it back to the feel, the sounds, the temperature, the texture, the sensations you’re experiencing.

Try taking a deep breath and letting go. And you may want to clue your partner in ahead of time that you’re going to be trying something a little different–they may want to join you! 

Communication – While words can be limiting, talking about sex is generally helpful for knowing what your partner is into and expressing what you’re into as well. Because we haven’t been taught to talk about sex and prioritize pleasure, most of us aren’t used to this. If this is something you could use some work on, I’d encourage you to have a meta conversation with your partner.

Ask them if they’d like to receive feedback and how. And tell them the same in return. I wouldn’t recommend having a full scale post-mortem right after sex, but little bits of feedback during an encounter or a discussion when you’re calm and fully clothed can go a long way towards getting you on the same page, helping you feel truly understood by your partner and getting to know what lights them up sexually as well.

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