Could Seeing A Sex Therapist Help You Reach Your Intimacy Goals?

What Does Great Sex Mean to You?

You Want to Feel Present and Connected to Your Partner

It’s difficult to immerse yourself in the pleasure of sex and intimacy when the vibes are off, and when the vibes are off, it can fuel more disconnect and create a vicious cycle that feels hard to break out of. Heather’s role as your intimacy coach is to help you move past the roadblocks that keep you from being present, in the moment, and excited to get it on with your partner.

You Want to Enjoy Sex Without Stressing About It Like a Chore

It’s true, the demands of life can wreak havoc on our schedules, our bandwidth, and our ability to show up with enthusiasm (yes, even to sex). If you’re feeling like sex is just another brick added to the mounting pile of stress, working with a sex therapist can be incredibly helpful at reframing your approach to sex and intimacy. With Heather, you’ll work on strategies to help sex become a fun, stress-free experience that cultivates moments of connection and pleasure instead of avoidance and anxiety.

You Want to Desire and Be Desired

A fluctuation or mismatched levels of desire can affect confidence without the proper communication and coping tools. It’s normal for desire to shift. A wide variety of factors can influence desire, and changes in it don’t always reflect interest. Working with your sex therapist, Heather, you’ll learn to communicate needs and understand differences in drive without causing friction between yourself and your partner.

FAQs:

Do you work with people who are neurodivergent, kinky, ethically non-monogamous, sex workers and/or LGBTQIA+?

Absolutely! Most of Heather’s clients are neurodivergent and Heather herself has ADHD and OCD. Heather has attended numerous kink events and explored ENM herself. About half her clients are queer and she also enjoys working with sex workers. One of Heather’s main passions when it comes to intimacy coaching is helping people find their authentic path . . . especially when it deviates from mainstream culture!

Heather’s priority is providing safe, welcoming care to all people of all shapes, sizes, ages, races, religions and abilities. 

So whether you’re currently a celibate nun or a prolific sex worker, let’s find the path that is right for you!

Do you accept insurance?

While she is licensed as a therapist in Illinois, Heather works as an intimacy coach. This allows her to serve people all across the globe with her coaching packages and online sessions, regardless of their physical location. Additionally, Heather’s approach is not about diagnosing or treating mental illness, but more about helping you gain clarity on your sexuality, developing your communication skills and navigating differences with your partner(s). 

Because Heather’s work falls outside the medical model, she does not work with any kind of insurance or provide a superbill. However, she does have a lower fee intern, Grace, who is a sex educator who can help with your intimacy related goals if budget is a concern.

Do you offer in-person sessions?

Heather’s sessions are offered online only. This makes care more accessible as clients aren’t limited by location, transportation, etc. This also provides an enjoyable experience for some who prefer to work with an intimacy coach from the comfort of their own space.

Heather is considering offering group programs for women and non-binary people in-person in the Tampa Bay area–reach out if you are interested in learning more.

Can you explain your coaching and therapy process?

Heather helps clients overcome psychological barriers to intimacy using approaches like Internal Family Systems, Gottman Couples Counseling, Eriksonian Hypnosis and Buddhist-inspired mindfulness practices. She is also a holistic health coach and looks at the intersection of physical, emotional and spiritual health.

Her process is centered around her “Pathway to Passion” coaching framework, which builds a foundation of emotional intimacy and sexual safety to support true intimacy. Together you’ll work through three main areas:

  1. Emotions & Clarity
  2. Foundations of Sex
  3. Personal Sex Roadmap

View the Pathway to Passion Diagram

With Heather’s help and support as your coach, you’ll identify the root of some of your roadblocks to sex and intimacy, learn how to navigate conflict and create safety, and find ways to reach a place of true connection and enjoyment in your sexual experiences. 

Learn more about the Pathway to Passion from Heather’s Ask A Sex Therapist podcast. 

Please note: Heather offers platonic, professional, non-sexual coaching services to her clients. If you are looking for a hands-on or sexual relationship with a professional, please consider a surrogate partner, tantrika, somatic bodyworkers or other sex worker. 

I specialize in the following areas of interest:

Anxious & Avoidant Attachment

Challenges with Open/Poly Relationship Style

Coming Out While In A Committed Relationship

Communication Issues

Differing Values & Priorities

Difficulty Orgasming

Erectile Dysfunction

Financial Arguments

Gender Transition Within A Committed Relationship

Growing Apart & Not Prioritizing the Relationship

Infidelity & Affairs

Kink Discrepancies

Lack of Sex & Reigniting the Spark

Low Libido & Loss of Desire

Mono-Poly Relationship Partners

Opening the Relationship (Polyamory, Mono-Poly Dynamics)

Pain During Intercourse

Premature Ejaculation

Sexual Desire Discrepancies

What Should You Expect From Working With a Sex Therapist?

 

Welcome to the no judgement zone! Working with an intimacy coach should always be a safe container inside which you feel comfortable getting open and honest about the things that are holding you and your partner back from the intimate connection that you seek. Through coaching, you’ll be supported as you learn the root of concerns that can feel really vulnerable to share about. Together with your coach and your partner, you’ll learn tools and skills to improve connection, communication, awareness, and ultimately, sex!

Are You Curious About Sex Therapy and Intimacy Coaching?

Sex Therapy and Intimacy Coaching is for everyone. Here are a few more reasons to consider working with a sex therapist or intimacy coach:

  • Learn new ways to communicate and be present
  • Improve sexual connections
  • Boost sexual confidence
  • Strengthen your physically intimate relationships
  • Become more grounded and self aware
  • Nurture or recover feelings of intimacy and closeness with your partner

 

Locations Heather Services

Boston | Denver | Washington D.C.

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What approach does Heather take as a Sex Therapist?

Heather is very person-centered and rather than focusing on a specific technique to use with all people who come into her office, she focuses on what feels like the right fit for you and your goals. That said, she has a few favorites in her toolbox!

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Heather’s approach is rooted in holistic health and taking a mind-body-spirit approach.
Specifically, she knows way too much about genetic mutations and digestion (both of which impact mental health a lot!) and will probably refer you to a functional medicine doctor at some point if you have health complaints–get ready!

Holistic Health

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Heather believes many of our concerns are related to underlying attachment wounds we’ve accumulated throughout life. She loves to educate clients about attachment and help them learn how to make healthy choices and set healthy boundaries in relationships.

Attachment

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Heather has been a meditator since 2005 and officially Buddhist since 2009. She loves to incorporate elements of mindfulness into her work including meditation and compassion practices as well as non-judgment and acceptance.

Mindfulness

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Heather loves bibliotherapy and will also teach what she can in-session, especially as it relates to healthy relationship dynamics, mindfulness and sexual wellness.

Psychoeducation

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Heather is a major cheerleader for her clients and loves to help people recognize and focus on what they’re good at and enjoy. Plus, research shows you make WAY more progress that way!

Positive Psychology

Is some of this really resonating with you?

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