Video Description
Learn about what people in the kink and BDSM community mean when they say they had a great “scene” or they’re going to do a scene with someone! Understand the role of aftercare and communication in a great scene.
Check out my free guide for some practical tips on how to get your mojo back!
Learn about what people in the kink and BDSM community mean when they say they had a great “scene” or they’re going to do a scene with someone! Understand the role of aftercare and communication in a great scene.
Speaker 1 [00:00:02] Hey, guys, this is Heather Shannon, sex and relationship therapist, and today I’m going to answer the question, what is a scene in terms of kink? So I’ve spoken with a bunch of therapists recently, and this was one of the top questions they wanted answered in a video. So I hope you guys like this. But basically, a scene is defined interaction with a start and stop point. And it might help you to think of it almost as like a scene in theater, because Kink definitely has some drama or a sense of theatricality to it. And typically partners involved in a scene, whether it’s two partners or more, are going to discuss how the scene is going to go and any kind of limits or boundaries that they have, as well as a safe word. And it would also be best practice to discuss what kind of aftercare might they need. And so aftercare means what are your needs after the scene? And this is something you can’t anticipate perfectly. But it might be you need some cuddles. It might be you want to discuss it. You might want to have some alone time. You might want to go talk with someone else. So kind of seating those needs upfront, making sure everyone’s on the same page, discussing safeword, expectations, et cetera. And just because it’s called the scene doesn’t mean there’s role play involved. So it might be everyone is just being themselves. They have a certain intention. They want to act out. And then there’s a clear end to the scene and then there’s the aftercare and then everybody kind of goes about their business. So hopefully that helps you guys. If you have more questions about what is this scene, how do I make sure my scene goes well or why are my scenes not going well? Or if you’re a therapist working with clients and you’re wondering how to kind of coach them through aftercare, let me know your questions and I’ll see you guys in future videos. Thanks.
Thanks for signing up to receive emails from me!
A message is on its way to you right now, but due to some of the subject matter I discuss, you may not receive it without taking these next steps.
If you don’t see it in your inbox in the next minute or two, please:
If the email is in your Spam or Junk folder, please select it and click the “Not Spam” or “Not Junk” button.
This helps your email software learn that it’s OK to put messages from me in your inbox!
If you still can’t find it, please send me a quick email to let me know.
It’s important to me that you feel welcomed, and either I or a member of my team will reach out to help you!
Even if the message goes directly to your inbox, please add Hello@HeatherShannon.co to your contacts, or if your email provider allows, please “whitelist” the entire HeatherShannon.co domain.
Here’s a simple step-by-step guide for how you can do this in Gmail and how you can move our emails from your Promotions Inbox to Primary.
I hate SPAM and promise never to share your email address.
I hate SPAM and promise never to share your email address.
Email Help