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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex and Orgasm with Bev Mitelman

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Exploring Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships and Sex with Bev Mitelman

 

In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon welcomes special guest Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, to discuss the intriguing topic of sex and attachment styles. They delve into how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—affect individuals’ relationships and sexual experiences. Bev shares insights from her personal journey, explaining how attachment theory has profoundly impacted her own healing. Listeners will learn about the emotional patterns and core wounds associated with each attachment style, and how these influence behaviors in romantic and sexual contexts. The episode also highlights the benefits of moving toward a secure attachment and offers practical advice for those looking to improve their relational and sexual well-being.

 

00:00 Introduction to Healing in Relationships

00:18 Welcome to Ask a Sex Therapist

00:47 Special Guest: Bev Mitelman

01:04 Bev’s Background and Journey

02:41 Understanding Attachment Styles

04:25 Personal Attachment Journey

06:00 Healing and Awareness

14:12 Defining Attachment Styles

15:09 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment

18:02 Anxious Attachment Explained

25:51 Avoidant Attachment Explained

32:30 Understanding the Shame Wound

33:12 Core Wound of Feeling Unsafe

34:13 Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Dynamics

37:56 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Explained

41:25 Attachment Styles and Sexual Behavior

49:38 Impact of Attachment on Orgasms

51:31 Avoidant Attachment and Sex

55:58 Fearful Avoidant Sexual Patterns

01:00:11 Resources and Final Thoughts

 

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Come As You Are: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1982165316&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_asn_list_ofs_mixed_d_qv_asin 

 

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Bev’s Website: https://securelyloved.com/

 

Bev’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved/ 

 

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Ep. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel DiLorenzo- https://youtu.be/3ebUCD63GMM?si=2BnuBIrT4YN0tE_s

 

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