038 Authenticity, People Pleasing & True Intimacy!

We all want connection, but sometimes our defense mechanisms—or “parts”—get in the way. Some of the most common culprits are the People Pleaser Part and the Obligated Part. We may think there’s no other way than to do things we don’t actually want to do and to put others’ needs first at our own expense, but there absolutely is. In fact, tamping down our authentic self guarantees we won’t experience true intimacy in our relationships. After all, how can you feel fully known or understood if you’re not really showing up? So, while our “parts” have the best intentions, they’re unfortunately misguided. This is where Internal Family Systems and Self Energy comes in! Self Energy is our higher consciousness and already feels connected to everyone and everything. From that place we can heal the People Pleaser and Obligated parts and experience real closeness with others.