What is a “Scene” in the Kink & BDSM Community?

Speaker 1 [00:00:02] Hey, guys, this is Heather Shannon, sex and relationship therapist, and today I’m going to answer the question, what is a scene in terms of kink? So I’ve spoken with a bunch of therapists recently, and this was one of the top questions they wanted answered in a video. So I hope you guys like this. But basically, a scene is defined interaction with a start and stop point. And it might help you to think of it almost as like a scene in theater, because Kink definitely has some drama or a sense of theatricality to it. And typically partners involved in a scene, whether it’s two partners or more, are going to discuss how the scene is going to go and any kind of limits or boundaries that they have, as well as a safe word. And it would also be best practice to discuss what kind of aftercare might they need. And so aftercare means what are your needs after the scene? And this is something you can’t anticipate perfectly. But it might be you need some cuddles. It might be you want to discuss it. You might want to have some alone time. You might want to go talk with someone else. So kind of seating those needs upfront, making sure everyone’s on the same page, discussing safeword, expectations, et cetera. And just because it’s called the scene doesn’t mean there’s role play involved. So it might be everyone is just being themselves. They have a certain intention. They want to act out. And then there’s a clear end to the scene and then there’s the aftercare and then everybody kind of goes about their business. So hopefully that helps you guys. If you have more questions about what is this scene, how do I make sure my scene goes well or why are my scenes not going well? Or if you’re a therapist working with clients and you’re wondering how to kind of coach them through aftercare, let me know your questions and I’ll see you guys in future videos. Thanks.